Breaking the Silence: Liberalism or Orthodoxy in the Lib Dem Gender Debate?

Zoe Hollowood calls for the party’s silent majority to speak up.

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In February 2025, Liberal Voice for Women settled its legal case with the Liberal Democrats, securing equal treatment for members who believe that biological sex is real and matters – often described as “gender critical” or “sex-realist” views. The settlement meant that we could finally book conference stands, organise fringe meetings, and in theory, participate in party life on the same basis as other members.

Rather than improving our legitimacy though, this led to a simmering resentment amongst radical trans activists in the party who said we had “legally forced” the party to acquiesce to our requests. This was deemed both coercive and indicative of “shadowy right-wing” funding. Accordingly, such actions were seen as providing yet more evidence of our “bad behaviour”. “Why couldn’t those pesky women just accept being discriminated against and harassed”, was the overall message from our detractors. Indeed, many radical trans activists believe such mistreatment is what we deserve – despite our very ordinary and mainstream views that are widely judged to be “worthy of respect in a democratic society”.

Discrimination from the top

To compound matters the former party president pre-emptively delegitimised our victory by saying from the conference podium that he regretted that the party could no longer ban us from having a conference stand and implied that we did not share LibDem values. Hence, although we were delighted to finally settle our case, the undercurrent of moral condemnation that we had dared to go to law – rather than managing to somehow win over a party leadership that would never agree to meet with us and ignored our letters – fuelled the fire amongst activists that our beliefs in biological reality were still unacceptable and should really not be allowed in the party.

Accusations continued to be made that we were a tiny minority in the party and we were constantly told to leave. It didn’t matter that many of us had been with the Lib Dems for decades, members were now expected to bend the knee to the newfangled gender ideology or stay silent. Abusive names – ‘bigot’ ‘fascists’ and worse – continued to be bandied around in internal Facebook groups against those of us speaking up for single-sex spaces.

The strange world of Facebook

The overwhelming opinion in these Facebook forums and in conference debates on the topic is that we do indeed hold the minority view. Most Facebook groups contain around 1,000 people with a dozen or so activists arguing against us and the rest just looking on. At conference, the sex/gender debates may have a maximum of a few hundred people in the hall. Were the views of these members broadly representative of the 60,000 or so party members? We suspected not, based on conversations we had in our local parties but the thing is…we just didn’t know.

So, the same month we settled with the party, we commissioned a YouGov poll to find out.  We were apprehensive, because we might have been proved wrong and then we would have had to decide whether or not to publish the results. Our feeling was that we would have to come clean, because if we didn’t, word would get out about the survey anyway, from its participants.

Hence, with some trepidation we undertook the survey into members’ views about single-sex spaces, the medicalisation of children, self-ID and the spousal exit clause*. This was timed to tie in with the F9 conference debate in March of the same year. Would our survey give a different result to the inevitable vote in the conference hall?

Vindicated by the majority

The answer is yes. It did. The survey clearly showed the majority of members do not agree with medicalising children with puberty blockers (53%) or opposite-sex hormones (55%) if they have gender distress. Members also thought it should not be made easier to get a gender recognition certificate (75%) and that the spousal exit clause should remain (63%).

Although the F9 vote at Conference went against us, we finally had evidence that this wasn’t reflective of wider opinion in the Party. We published the results on leaflets for Spring Conference and had brilliant conversations with conference-goers. Many young people came to tell us they secretly agreed with us, which was telling.

At Autumn Conference 2025, we published the results on single-sex spaces and sports. Overwhelmingly, members thought it was unsafe (56%) and unfair (67%) to allow biological males who identify as women into women’s sports. On single-sex spaces, once members were informed that most trans women do not have genital surgery (only about 5% have such surgery, most trans women are fully intact males), members also supported single-sex spaces such as changing rooms (53%) and toilets (46% vs 39%).

For those living in a bubble, the truth can be uncomfortable

At first the trans activists refused to believe the survey. Some suggested that without formal membership numbers, respondents might have just “self-identified” as Lib Dems. The irony of this argument from those who were themselves promoting self-ID, seemed lost on them. Some questioned whether the survey was genuine – we pointed out that results relating to F9 had been published by YouGov who had verified the data for journalists (see article here and here).

Finally, a trans activist engaged with the survey last week via Lib Dem Voice but implied we were not being honest about what the survey reveals, particularly as we reference answers about trans women who haven’t had genital surgery. In truth, given that 95% of biological males who identify as women are intact, this must be the most appropriate data to reference.

“He who only knows his own side of the case, knows little of that” – Mill

Lib Dem Voice has allowed no right of reply in its comments, to set the record straight, so its readership, who are unlikely to engage with the actual results, will be left in the dark and thus the traducing of Liberal Voice for Women by that platform, continues unchecked.

But if the majority of members agree with us, why are they unwilling to speak up? We all know silence is not agreement, but the Lib Dems now have a culture that has become so censorious on this topic, with public cancellation and accusations of bigotry for those who challenge the ideology, many people decide it’s too expensive. This doesn’t mean they have changed their minds; they simply stop talking. The observers on Facebook forums have become conformists out of self-preservation, they nod along to keep the peace or quietly step back from participating in such debates altogether.

Different opinions can now be heard

Liberal Voice for Women has done the heavy lifting to help the debate to take place, especially since we successfully advocated for changing the party’s Code of Conduct to ensure that the expression of gender-critical views was (in theory) no longer punished by misuse of the complaints system.

We have fought for, and won, the legal right to receive equal treatment within this party. Our members, both women and men, regularly go toe-to-toe with activists in internal forums now that we can no longer be removed simply for expressing gender critical views. This has opened up space for debate that was impossible just a few years ago. It is far safer to speak out today than it has ever been.

But Liberal Voice for Women cannot do this alone

As long as the silent majority remains silent, our party will continue to be shaped by a small but vocal minority whose views are too often mistaken for a consensus. Data alone changes nothing. If members who support single-sex spaces remain reluctant to speak for fear of abuse or ostracism, others will continue to claim to speak on their behalf, and the party’s leadership will continue to hear a distorted picture of what members actually think.

That should concern every liberal, regardless of where they stand on these issues. Liberalism is not about enforcing orthodoxy or demanding conformity. It has always been about testing ideas through open debate, challenging assumptions, and allowing evidence to prevail over dogma. A genuinely liberal party should not fear disagreement; it should welcome it. It is through the free exchange of ideas that better policies are forged and weaker arguments exposed.

Have the courage of your convictions

So, this is a call to participate – to show moral courage and to reclaim the party. Speak up in your local parties. Challenge assumptions. Refuse to be intimidated into silence. Yes, it can feel daunting at first, but Liberal Voice for Women is here to support those who want to restore a culture of open debate.

Above all, insist that our party lives up to the liberal values it claims to champion. The survey shows that there is a silent majority. The question now is whether they are prepared to make their voices heard.

P.S. If anyone would like to start speaking up by signing our open letter supporting the recent EHRC Code of Practice (which includes guidance to service providers on single-sex spaces), we’d welcome your support.

The “spousal exit clause” is a provision within the UK’s Gender Recognition Act. It specifically addresses the rights of spouses when one partner seeks to obtain a Gender Recognition Certificate (GRC).

Key Features

  • Annulment Option: The clause allows a spouse to annul their marriage if their partner applies for a GRC without their consent. This is crucial for individuals who may not be able to divorce due to religious or cultural constraints.
  • Protection for Spouses: It serves to protect spouses, particularly those who may be trapped in a marriage that has fundamentally changed due to their partner’s transition. This is especially relevant for women who may face social ostracism or abuse if they cannot exit the marriage.
  • Not a Veto: Importantly, this provision does not act as a veto on the transitioning spouse’s ability to change their gender legally. It simply provides an option for the non-transitioning spouse to decide whether they wish to continue the marriage.

Contextual Importance

The spousal exit clause is designed to ensure that both partners in a marriage have a say in the future of their relationship when significant changes occur. It acknowledges the complexities surrounding marriage and gender identity, aiming to balance the rights of both parties involved.

Information from womansplace.org and the UK Parliament

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15 responses to “Breaking the Silence: Liberalism or Orthodoxy in the Lib Dem Gender Debate?”

  1. Anne Williams avatar
    Anne Williams

    The capture of the Party by trans ideology is peculiar, but no more peculiar than the capture of various universities.
    Name calling and shunning have become standard control techniques within the Party, and are probably doing serious damage to the activist base.
    Thank you, Zoe, for the explanation of the spousal veto in GRC. Trans ‘widows’ are in such an unenviable position, and the veto is an effort to treat them humanely.

    1. Zoe Hollowood avatar
      Zoe Hollowood

      Thank you Anne. You are right that the pattern is familiar but one would hope – in a liberal party – that space would be held open for discussion and leaders would enable and encourage debate. Instead we have seen censorship, moderating out of discussions (including at online conference), deplatforming and the leader even voting to silence women in the party from discussing women’s representation. The ostracism and vilification were not inevitable and they bring into question our commitment to liberal values that we preach so readily about to populists.

    2. Andrew MacGregor avatar
      Andrew MacGregor

      One of the modules for my Psychology Masters last year was about discrimination. Every single lecture for 2 months ended up about discrimination against trans people. The UKSC judgement caused tears and feet stamping. Imagine how unsurprised I was for pointing out that n rights had been lost. One deluded young woman screamed at me the unbelievable claim that “They’re changing the definition of homosexuality!” She couldn’t articulate from what it had been changed.

      The capture is clear. Its a planned process.

  2. Mohammed Amin avatar
    Mohammed Amin

    I first got seriously engaged with this issue while I was still a Conservative Party member. In October 2018 I put in a personal response to the Government consultation on possible reform of the Gender Recognition Act. That was so long ago that Theresa May was PM.

    Coming to the issues stone cold, it was obvious to me that the “spousal exit clause” should remain. Indeed I came out against all, or almost all, of the proposed changes, and the Government dropped the idea of reform.

    The full text of my response can be read on my personal website, in my article on the difference between Sex and Gender. I have of course signed the open letter.

    1. Zoe Hollowood avatar
      Zoe Hollowood

      Thank you

  3. Lin Clark avatar
    Lin Clark

    I had voted Liberal for years. I thought Nick Clegg civilised the Conservatives until he agreed to charge student fees. I thought, by and large, Liberals seemed a fair party with a conscience. I now think I will never vote Liberal again when they don’t know what a women is. How ridiculous you are throwing away votes on ideological nonsense.

    1. Zoe Hollowood avatar
      Zoe Hollowood

      Sadly Lin a lot of Liberals have bought the line that this is gay rights 2.0 and/or trans people are a very vulnerable minority and so we should just #BeKind. There isn’t the same thought or empathy given to what women might be experiencing and women’s need for privacy, dignity and safety and that there is a genuine clash of rights. As Helen Joyce would say people are looking through the wrong end of the telescope. I think there is a lot of misogyny in the party – some is overt but others think because we have a decent number of MPs we must be fine. Not true.

    2. Chris Cory avatar
      Chris Cory

      I do wonder how many of the gentle citizens of the leafy home counties, residents of Chesham and Amersham, Harpenden and Berkhamstead, realise that they vote for a party who are so confused (that’s putting it nicely) on this issue ?

      1. Zoe Hollowood avatar
        Zoe Hollowood

        Very good question. Our position this issue certainly doesn’t go on the leaflets around me in the leafy suburbs.

  4. Andrew MacGregor avatar
    Andrew MacGregor

    Sadly, some elements of the Lib Dems can never give up on the trans ideology. It goes beyond simply admitting they’re wrong, to the fact they would have to acknowledge the harms they have done. On Tuesday this week, a LD councillor stated that “Trans Rights were under attack and that they were being eroded” in the council chamber. Another decided to launch into a long diatribe against a female councillor for simply asking when the public would be notified of the changes to facilities.

    I fully support the efforts of LVW, simply because they see the need to ensure women are not victimised directly through expressed behaviours or indirectly through coercive practices.

    1. Zoe Hollowood avatar
      Zoe Hollowood

      Thanks Andrew

    2. Yonni Wilson avatar
      Yonni Wilson

      That support’s very much appreciated Andrew.

  5. Yonni Wilson avatar
    Yonni Wilson

    Thank you for this important rallying call to the ‘silent majority’ in the party, Zoe.

    Whilst I acknowledge the reluctance, even abject fear, of some members in not daring to speak out in a party currently in the grip of trans activism, I ask those members to consider the price they are paying to say and do nothing.

    Women are paying an enormous price, willingly or 100% unwillingly, to accommodate the desires of a minority of men in this.
    My neighbour’s autistic 19 year-old daughter has just undergone a double mastectomy and is now on wrong sex hormones – a life permanently altered and a lifetime of medicalisation and health issues associated ahead of her.

    This issue has become existential for the future of the Liberal Democrat party, which is now recognised, internally and externally, as ‘the party of trans and toilets’.

    For those who don’t care enough about women’s safety, dignity & rights to speak out, perhaps I can appeal to their desire to support the continuance of the party and their hopes for any future electoral success…?
    The vast majority of the voting public do not agree with the gender ideology that our party is now championing – many feel politically homeless and are crying out for a solid, centre left party to vote for.
    We can answer that call and claim that position, or remain a scared silent majority and allow the LibDems to be the TransToiletsParty.

  6. John Barrett avatar
    John Barrett

    Zoe, you said “Lib Dems now have a culture that has become so censorious on this topic, with public cancellation and accusations of bigotry for those who challenge the ideology, ” I completely agree with that statement, and you then ask “why more people do not speak up?” The problem in the party is much more widespread than simply this one topic, and this unwillingness to accept discussion and debate on a range of views is one of the reasons I, and I suspect many others, left the party. In my case it was after 40 years of active membership and having been elected locally to a city council and nationally to Westminster. I felt my party had left me, rather than me leaving the party. To name just a few of the issues where debate in the party has been stifled and restricted online and in person. The Scottish independence referendum in 2014, where it was estimated that one third of Liberal voters voted for independence, yet those with this view within the party were stifled and I for one was asked not to go to conference if I was not going to support the party line. The Brexit referendum in 2016 where those who voted for Brexit were described as ignorant, racist, poorly educated etc. Clearly leaving any party members who may have had their own reasons for voting that way to want to keep their heads down. Questioning why the party supported a second referendum on the EU but opposed a second referendum on Independence at the same time was not up for discussion. The nuclear weapons and nuclear power debate in the party, where I felt strongly about the issues, but accepted if my own views were defeated at conference the debate was always worthwhile and there were no bad feelings, until policy became simply the view of the leader. The all women shortlist (AWS), where a former male MP was told that he should not stand to regain his seat, as the party would rather lose it with a female candidate than win it with a man. Regardless of my own views on such issues, there was always healthy debate in the party on every view and policy. Now debate is stifled and if it not the current party line, few speak up. I suspect many older members, like me, who actively campaigned for 40 years, now do not wish to spend their time infighting and have left internal debate to others. This will be part of the reasons that membership has halved from nearly 120,000 to 60,000. There will be many other reasons, but when there are more former Liberal Democrat paid up members outside the party than inside the party, it it very clear that something serious has gone wrong. It was said to me recently that every former living Parliamentarian in Edinburgh West has now left the party. I do not think any of them will now speak up on this issue. That might answer your question as to why more people do not speak up.

    1. Simon Robinson avatar
      Simon Robinson

      I agree with John that, although trans has become the most obvious example of intolerance, it’s not the only example. Brexit, immigration, and support for Black Lives Matter are other issues where, instead of debating, the dominant culture within the party has become one of presuming that any opposing views must be somehow bigoted and therefore not worthy of debate. I think it reflects a wider problem amongst progressives, where progressives have (falsely) convinced themselves that they have the absolute moral high ground and that anyone with views on any issue that are associated with the right must therefore be somehow immoral. This attitude is sadly driving the LibDems further and further away from where public opinion is – particularly on cultural issues, and making it impossible to improve policies. And, as you say, driving many members away.

      I hope you and others will continue to speak up, and consider rejoining – that is after all the only way we are going to get things to change.

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